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The Danger Of Getting What You’ve Always Wanted
July 3, 2014 at 1:00 am 0
That's an odd title for a post, right?

There should be celebration in getting what you've always wanted, shouldn't there?  You've outwitted, outlasted, and outplayed both the odds against and the people around you and so . . . voila!

You have that thing you've always wanted.

Could be the promotion, the house, the championship, the notoriety, or even the congregation humming on all eight cylinders.

And that's where you and me and all of us are at our most vulnerable.

I recently had a fairly major role (for me) as a spokesperson for a segment within Methodism.  I think I've got things to say, an ability to say them fairly well, and it was a real honor to be asked to represent my friends and allies.  And so I did.  It's wasn't everything I've ever wanted . . . but it was something.

Anyway, the aftermath of the event?  I got sick.  Sick-in-the-bed as they used to say in Monroe.  Bronchitis, trending towards pneumonia -- who gets that in June? -- requiring a couple of days at home and a couple of steroidal / antiobiotic shots in the . . . how can I say this? . . . hip!

Getting so sick so quickly seems to me like a direct response to the intensity/letdown dynamic of that Methodist event.

It simply serves as another reminder that we are more vulnerable in the aftermath of success than we are in the midst of failure.  Getting what you've always wanted is great.  And it is dangerous.

It's been that way for a long time.  What did the serpent promise the man and the woman?  "Then you will be like God, knowing good and evil."  

That's what they wanted.  And that's what they got.  
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Massively Small
July 2, 2014 at 7:11 am 0
Each week, I get  reminders that effectiveness in ministry and growth in the Spirit come not in great leaps but in small steps.

Rather than pinning my hopes on a "major ministry breakthrough" or a "clear personal word from God," I've learned to enter into a continual process for progress.

One step at a time.  Steps that are steady, unspectacular, easy to take for granted, and easier to overlook.  Yet when you take them, you realize that each step is full of meaning and possibility and the Spirit.

Each step is massive in its smallness.

For example, in my own spiritual life, those massively small steps include . . .

Reading Gripped By The Greatness Of God instead of listening to "Imus In The Morning."

Carving time in the morning routine to sit and to pray.

Ensuring our TV system does not have access to inappropriate channels.

Taking time each night to pray favor on other ministries in our area.

Actually listening to pop music with Christian lyrics.  It will never be quite the rush Led Zeppelin is for me, but it's not bad to hear "How He Loves Us" when you hop in the car.

On their own, none of those are monumental. You are probably doing many of the same.  However, when you piece them together, these massively small steps give momentum to my own living relationship with Jesus Christ.


In ministry and in my role as pastor of Good Shepherd, the same principle applies.  Some massively small steps to which I commit each week:

Hand written notes to first time guests.  Call those same folks on Saturday, just before what I hope will be their second Sunday at GSUMC.

Get to the office early.

Return every phone call and email within 24 hours, usually within the hour.

Do the least pleasant thing first.

If I haven't seen people church in awhile, call.  Sometimes they tell me they've left us for someone younger and better looking. More often, they are grateful to be noticed in their absence.

Regardless of how far ahead I am in sermon prep, there is always another one to write.  Take notes all day long.

Again, none of those are revelatory.  None make me a "visionary leader."  None qualify me for the title of Lead Pastor (heaven forbid!).

Yet I am wired in such a way that each of those small steps contain massive meaning for ministry and spirituality.

What massively small step will you take today?
 

 

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Top Five Tuesday — Top Five (Or Six) Wimbledon Moments
July 1, 2014 at 1:00 am 0
Some thoughts I shared about Wimbledon in the space before . . .

Top Five Tuesday: Top Five Wimbledon Moments



I have never been to Wimbledon. Something about sitting in a cold rain in early July doesn't appeal to me.

And for the last 24 years, I haven't been able to watch a men's final as those matches are played when I'm working. Sunday morning.

Nevertheless, like any tennis serious tennis player and fan, Wimbledon still holds a mystique for me.

So here are my top five Wimbledon memories, all taken in from afar.

1. Arthur Ashe upsets Jimmy Connors to win in 1975. It's maybe the best "where were you when?" question in the tennis world. Where were you when you heard that Arthur Ashe had beaten a seemingly invincible Jimmy Connors to win it all in 1975? I was playing in the Waco (TX) Open, 14-and-under division, and the announcement came over the louspeakers: Arthur Ashe beat Jimmy Connors 6-1, 6-1, 5-7, 6-4. All the players were stunned. I found out later that Ashe abandoned his customary slash-and-burn power tennis to confound Connors with dinks and slices. I own a DVD of the match, pull it out from time to time, and never fail to register a large smile as I watch match point: Ashe slices a nasty serve in the deuce court to Connors' backhand and then puts away the weak reply into the open space. Nice guys can finish first after all.




2. John McEnroe defeats Jimmy Connors in the 1984 finals 6-1, 6-1, 6-2. Julie and I were newly married, I wasn't preaching yet, and so we fixed a breakfast of strawberries and cream and settled down to watch the match. What we saw was simply the best display of tennis I've ever seen anyone play. McEnroe hit upwards of 80% of his first serves in, made only four errors in the three sets, and managed to make Connors look like a beginner. It was utterly, artfully, brilliant.













3. Bjorn Borg defeats Roscoe Tanner in five sets in the 1979 final. This was the first ever live-on-AmericanTV "Breakfast At Wimbledon." As a 17-year-old, I watched it at the T-Bar-M Tennis Center where I practiced every day. I liked Tanner because, like me, he had a good serve and sketchy groundstrokes. He almost pulled the upset off, but Borg was resilient in the end, winning his fourth of five straight.


4. Evonne Goolagong beats both Billie Jean King and Margaret Court to win it all in 1971. This is the first Wimbledon I remember. And Goolagong was a carefree newcomer with a sublime backhand. She beat the two nervous veterans and got on the cover of Sports Illustrated. As a 10 year old, I remember thinking tennis had really arrived.

5. Nadal beats Federer 9-7 in the fifth to win in 2008. Why would the greatest match ever between two of the best players ever only be #5 on my list? Because it's my list and the wrong guy won. Still, as a piece of drama and a display of athletic skill, it was hard to beat. And Jon Wertheim's Strokes Of Genius is a must read.
























6.  Roger Federer wins his first in 2003 and cries like a baby.  I don't believe any of us thought there would be six more titles after this one (and counting?!), but this is my all time favorite acceptance speech.





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Head Scratchers, Week 4 — A Sermon On The Unforgiveable Sin
June 30, 2014 at 1:00 am 0
When Jesus says, "whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven," that's a problem.

It runs so contrary to everything we've heard about grace, the cross, redemption, and possibility.

Plus, there's that slight issue:  what is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit and how do you know if you have ever done it?

So those were the dilemmas this sermon sought to resolve.  It began, as all of them have in the series, with an extraordinary video courtesy of Chris Macedo:






WORST. HEADSCRATCHER. EVER.  The unforgiveable sin.  The sin that once you have committed it, there is apparently no turning back.  And a lot of people have spent a lot of time trying to figure out and define exactly what that eternal sin is . . . what is the blasphemy against the Holy Spirit?  And still others have tried to figure out if they have ever done it.  And then still others, sadly, assume they have and that it’s too late for their soul.  I so vividly remember shortly after my own conversion to faith at 17 that time I was speaking with a kid in my grade and trying to get him to consider Christ as well and he said, “Nah, it’s too late.  I’ve already done too much.”  At 17!  Or even the guy in college whose life was headed down a pretty dark path and said to me in honor of an AC-DC song, “well, maybe hell is not such a bad place to be.”  Well, it is, and I always pray that no one hearing my voice will end up there.
            It’s also interesting to me that one of the biggest fears people bring to the notion of the unforgiveable sin is the possibility that they HAVE committed it BUT DON’T KNOW IT.  Almost like they did it unawares, THEN lived a good life of faith, and end up dying and going to hell anyway.  “Gee, if I’d known that was coming I woulda lived it up while I was here!”  So in light of all that, I suppose we ought to figure out what “it” is, determine if we can in any sense “do” it – knowingly or unknowingly – and then explore what all this has to do with our lives anyway.
            And, as usual, the answers to these questions come from pulling back from the verse in question to see what is around it.  And with this one, perhaps more than any other, the answers stem from the build up, the dialog that precedes it.  And that build up and dialog in this case actually involves Jesus’ own family.  Look at Mark 3:20-21: 

 Then Jesus entered a house, and again a crowd gathered, so that he and his disciples were not even able to eat. 21 When his family[a] heard about this, they went to take charge of him, for they said, “He is out of his mind.”


The word there for “take charge” is literally seize him.  His family wanted to seize him against his will because in their view he is “out of his mind.”  And if that conjures up in your mind these very sad images of a straight jacket, a psych ward, involuntary commitment & Jack Nicholson in One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest, it SHOULD.  That’s what the family wants to do with Jesus here.  He has the wild popularity, this expanding influence that they can’t understand – in fact, it makes them fearful – and so their response is to curse it.  Throw it to the ground.  Mom and brothers don’t have a category for computing this time of power & influence happening to one of their own.  They could only dream of having that influence and so they try to stow it away.  Families are tough!
            And then look at 3:22: 

 And the teachers of the law who came down from Jerusalem said, “He is possessed by Beelzebul! By the prince of demons he is driving out demons.”

So after his family, it’s Jesus’ religion that gets him in trouble.  Maybe his boyhood preachers!  VBS leaders for sure.  And since Jesus is able to do the kind of things they can’t do – like heal people with the sound of his voice and draw crowds to hear his teaching – they cast aspersions on him.  They say he does what he does by the devil’s power.  Even though he is doing things that are inherently good, he is doing them via a power that is truly evil.  Do you see the parallel to the family?  Jesus has more success than they have the ability to comprehend, he has surpassed them professionally! and so they curse him.  Family envies his influence: curse.  Clergy envies his success: curse.
            Which launches Jesus into pointing out the absurdity of those two preceding ideas in 3:23-27: 


 23 So Jesus called them over to him and began to speak to them in parables: “How can Satan drive out Satan? 24 If a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand. 25 If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand. 26 And if Satan opposes himself and is divided, he cannot stand; his end has come. 27 In fact, no one can enter a strong man’s house without first tying him up. Then he can plunder the strong man’s house.
 
You thoughtAbraham Lincoln  said that “house divided against itself cannot stand” first, but no – a bigger, yes, better name came up with it.  And because it was from the mouth of Jesus originally, it carried unusual truth & credibility when Lincoln retweeted it 1800 years later.  
            But do you see what is going on with this back & forth?  First with the family and then with the clergy?  ENVY.  The family envies his influence, doesn’t have category to understand it, and so curses him by trying to have him committed.  The clergy envies his success, that he can do things they’d like to do but can’t, and so they curse him by accusing him of being in league with Evil.  Whatever else this story is about, whatever else the eternal sin is, envy has to be swimming around the center somehow.
            So I’ve got to ask: where’s the source of your envy?  You know what envy is, right?  The art of counting another’s blessings instead of your own.  Even more, envy is not only I want what you have, but once I get it I want you not to have it anymore at all.  So where is it that you have envy about another’s influence?      Because it starts SO YOUNG!  When our 24 year old daughter was three, and used to having the run of the house and of our family, we played the dirtiest trick you can ever play on a three year old: we had another child. And so we brought Riley home and her world turned upside down as the attention and influence was suddenly shared.  And when he was probably two months old, we did an all church retreat with the Monroe church and one morning she wakes him up at the retreat center . . . by biting him on the nose.  Hard.  Envy with teeth marks! People in the church were like, "that preacher is raising cannibal children!"  Still the most infamous event in our little family and envy was at the root.  Starts young.
            You may not be at the biting stage – anymore – but does it have to do with a sibling or a co-worker or a friend. They’ve got a blessing of influence and impact that you don’t have.  Taylor must have come by it honestly, because this is the one that gets me with other preachers for sure.  
            But what about envying the success of someone else?  They have more, have done more, dress more, drive more.  And you’re so busy tallying up all their blessings that you can’t possibly count your own.  Because we end up ridiculing that which we cannot attain.  It is especially dangerous because the ultimate target of our envy is godliness.  I remember working at a Xn camp and even among a Xn camp staff there was one young man who stood out because he was a bit different than everyone else.  And other staffers didn’t always treat him well.  Finally, I asked one of the camp leaders why this one fellow was subject to such Xn Cruelty and he answered:  “I think his holiness intimidates everyone else.”  So true.  He had a level of connection with God that we others didn’t and so our response to that was to lash out.  So where is it that someone has influence or success or godliness and you end up cursing them for it?
            I ask that because all that envy – from family, clergy – and all that curing (Beelzebub!) paves the way for the head scratcher:  

 28 Truly I tell you, people can be forgiven all their sins and every slander they utter, 29 but whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven; they are guilty of an eternal sin.”

 Ah, so the deal is that you curse what you envy, you ridicule that which you cannot attain. TO THE POINT OF ATTRIBUTING THE WORK OF GOD TO THE POWER OF SATAN.  That’s what is going on in this dialog, that’s what’s going on in our lives . . . and that’s what’s bee going on for all time.  Because what was it that the tempter used to trick the man and the woman in the Garden?  Envy!  To be like God, remember.  Man, woman, why are you content just being people when you could be like God, knowing good & evil?  Would you like some apple pie?  CHOMP!  God had something they didn’t and the envy for that all encompassing knowledge made them curse God and disobey.
            But go back even further than the Garden.  What was it that made Satan himself, that former angel, fall into rebellion?  Envy!  He wanted what God had!  The prestige, the acclaim, the praise!  He couldn’t stand to see it going to another & so longed for it for himself.  So now it’s clear: this thing that stretches back before creation, then rears its head in Mark 3, and now lands squarely in our lives . . . it’s what makes you want to play the role of God, to be like God and when you realize you aren’t God you curse God . . . and THAT is unforgiveable.  You curse what you wish you could be and so you ultimately curse and hate God.
            See, the unforgiveable sin is NOT something you do.  It’s an attitude you have.  It’s NOT an act you commit.  It’s a journey you take.  And that takes you.  It’s this all-consuming, uncontrollable envy, starting with people and ending with God, and the effect of that envy is corrosive.  Once your heart becomes sufficiently corroded over (AV car battery) and you are well versed in cursing what you envy you arrive at the state of unforgiveness.  God doesn’t break through a corroded heart.  It’s not an action.  It’s a journey. But a lot of people end up taking it.
            And I don’t want you to take the first step.  It’s so much like I’ve told you before that I heard in an open AA meeting once:  if you get hit by a train, it’s not the caboose that kills you.  It’s the first care.  Same with this.  That corrosive journey of envy starts somewhere – siblings, co-workers, the rich & famous, other preachers – and it ends nowhere: eternal separation from God.  You curse what you envy and that trip lands at an unforgiveable place.
            So where is it that you are so eaten up with what you’re NOT that you don’t develop what you ARE?  I long for me and you not to curse what is beyond us but to delight in what is in others.  Yeah, the success, the blessings, the godliness of others elevates the whole enterprise.  Raises us all.  It takes us all.  You know, a great band doesn’t sound great because they’re all playing the same instrument but because they are all adding their part to the whole sound.  And a great choir doesn’t sound great because they’re all singing the same part; they sound great because each is singing a part of the harmony that makes up the song.
         
     It’s even like this: AV Neil Armstrong.  And you know what he got to say, right?  One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.  Guess what?  It took 218,000 people to get him there!  Right!  218,000 people worked on that project from beginning to end to make one guy the first one on the moon.  You gotta know that a whole lot of egos were put aside and that there was a whole lot of delight in what is in others.  Don’t curse what is beyond you.  Celebrate what others enjoy.  
            Here’s what you do this week:  when you start counting up the blessings of other people, STOP.  Turn that calculator off.  And then ON the one that is for your own blessings.
            Because wouldn’t it be great, wouldn’t it be marvelous if instead of having the influence and the godliness of other people eat you up from the inside out, you were able to delight in the goodness of God that is within them.  Because who knows?  You might just save your soul.
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Head Scratchers, Week 4 — The Unpardonable Sin
June 27, 2014 at 1:00 am 0
When I was in college, I read a short story by Nathaniel Hawthorne called "The Unpardonable Sin."


It was creepy, melancholy, and thoroughly absorbing.  I even wrote a paper on it in which I identified that the unpardonable sin was a throwaway line tucked at the end of the story.  Nathaniel was no longer around either to support or refute my interpretation.

If you've not read that short story but you have read The Scarlet Letter, you know that faith haunted Hawthorne much more than it ever comforted him.

Anyway, part of the reason Hawthorne's faith haunted him had to do with head scratchers such as the one we'll tackle this week:

28 Truly I tell you, people can be forgiven all their sins and every slander they utter, 29 but whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven; they are guilty of an eternal sin.”

What in the world should we do with that one?  Well, I'll tell you.

On Sunday.

At 8:30, 10, and 11:30.
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