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Top Five Tuesday — Top Five Reasons Why I Am Not A Progressive Methodist
February 19, 2013 at 2:00 am 31
Roger Olson, who teaches at the Truett Theological Seminary at Baylor University, is the most interesting of theological mixes:  a Southern Baptist, an evangelical who is not fundamentalist and, perhaps best of all, an articulate advocate of Wesleyan-Arminian theology.

In other words, he's a really good United Methodist . . . he just doesn't know it yet. 

And because of a recent post, he's my newest cyber hero.

On February 7, Olson wrote Why I Am Not A Liberal Christian which, I believe, is a substantive critique of where modern-day Protestant Liberalism comes from and where it leads.  And because Olson is not limited by any kind of "Top Five Tuesday," he lists at least six reasons for his beliefs.  He also has a provocative follow up:  Why I Am Not A Fundamentalist

Anyway, all that got me inspired and set me to thinking:  why I am not in the progressive wing of the United Methodist Church?

Why is it that I don't belong to the Methodist Federation For Social Action?  Why haven't I asked Good Shepherd to join the Reconciling Ministries Network?  And why do I look with suspicion at the majority of statements emerging from the General Board of Church & Society?

Well, here goes.  Five reasons why I am not a United Methodist progressive

(Actually, before I do, two quick caveats:  1) I am speaking in terms of theology, not politics.  While I don't make my voting record public, just know that on some political issues I'm conservative and on others, not at all; 2) this theological conservative/progressive divide also does not refer to worship style.  Many would say that Good Shepherd's approach to worship is progressive, yet we hope that the modern format is harnessed to ancient, orthodox theology.)

So, with that in mind, here goes:

1.  I don't believe that progressive Christianity holds exclusive rights to the longstanding goals of what we used to call the "social gospel" --

a vital engagement with the poor;
a radical commitment to ethnic diversity;
a continual reminder to the comfortably Christian that Jesus came to make their lives deeply uncomfortable --

because I have seen all those goals come to life within the community of an unabashedly conservative and evangelical church.  And Good Shepherd is not at all unique.  Throughout our connection there are congregations who are able to live out many of liberalism's aims while remaining moored to historic teaching.  Check here and here and here for examples of multi-ethnic and missionally-engaged churches who stay traditional in their doctrine.

2.  I believe that heaven and hell are real and that Jesus will actually return to earth one day to judge the quick and the dead.  Progressive  Christianity has a strong vein of universal salvation that runs through it.  And while I would like to believe in universalism, the consistent witness of the New Testament along with the specific words of Jesus prevent me from doing that. 

3.  I choose an ancient understanding of authority over a modern one.  For Olson, the conservative / progressive divide comes down to differing sources of authority.  Here's how he says it:  However, when I read [a three volume] history of liberal theology in America I discern that all these theologians have one thing in common—recognition of the authority of “modern thought” alongside or above Scripture and tradition.  According to Olson, what is current and/or personal becomes authoritative in progressive theology.  I am of the mind that newer is almost never better when it comes to doctrine.  That's why in the case of homosexual practice, conservative United Methodists believe that 2000 years of the church's understanding of sexual holiness (celibacy in singleness and faithfulness in heterosexual marriage) takes precedence over newer interpretations that have developed in the last 40 years. So there is a reason why part of our "liturgy" at Good Shepherd includes lifting the bible -- not because we worship it but because we choose to surrender to its authority to the best of our ability and understanding.

4.  I hope and pray to embrace the heart of the Wesleyan movement -- a passionate belief in free will, a celebration of the assurance of salvation, and a promise to spread scriptural holiness -- without a particular attachment to its contemporary formsThat's why in our congregation we have plenty of women's LifeGroups -- but no United Methodist Women's circles.  It's why we have children and students lead us in worship -- but no acolyte ministry.  And it's why, yes, we built our church to include space for a baptismal pool -- so that we as a congregation can share in the celebration of new believers going public by getting wet.

5.  I don't read the bible literally.  I don't read the bible symbolically.  I read it literarilyLike we say at Good Shepherd, "the bible is not a book; it's a library."  And libraries by definition have differing styles of literature on their shelves.  So it is with Scripture -- and you interpret the books according to the style of writing they represent.  That's why the best of evangelical scholarship can read a chapter like Genesis 1 and know at once that it is not pretending to be a scientific essay but is intead a glorious hymn of creation.  At the other end of the library, we can read Revelation and know that it can't mean to us (modern readers) something it never meant to them (the first audience of, hello!, the seven churches).  In reading the bible literarily, I come to believe in the miracles of Christ that many in the progressive wing jettisoned long ago -- chief among them, his virgin conception and his literal, bodily resurrection from the dead. 

These days, homosexuality appears to be the dividing line between progressive and conservative United Methodists.  Progressives advocate changing the denomination's official position (which currently states that homosexual intimacy is not compatible with Christian teaching) while conservatives hope to retain it.

But I suggest that the homosexual issue is not the cause of the divide; it is a symptom of a separation that already exists.  The more fundamental issues involve authority and eternity and even congrgational flexibility.  And on all of those I land alongside those Methodist who call themselves "conservative" or "evangelical."

Through all of that, I hope that some day I can be as strong a Methodist as my new favorite Baptist professor.
 
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When A Wall Of Complaint = A Wall Of Praise
February 18, 2013 at 2:00 am 1
First of all, the snowstorm that hit Charlotte on Saturday evening was the worst possible kind from a preacher's perspective:  strong enough to hinder Sunday attendance but not so strong that we needed to cancel.  It also hit on Saturday evening, meaning many people's final visual was of snow everywhere -- meaning no church on Sunday.

But the roads (at least on the Charlotte side of things) weren't bad, and we went ahead with all three services. We had about half the number of people we've been having.

So I had some frustration around all that because I felt what we had prepared for people to experience was meaningful.  The message, called Honest To God, came from Psalm 13 and landed at a counter-intuitive bottom line:  Your anger at God is just your praise of God in disguise.

Drawing on the rich language of that 13th Psalm -- four consecutive brazen questions of "How long, Lord?"  that open it up -- we recognized together that giving voice to frustation with God is no sin at all.  It is instead a courageous way of acknowledging that God is sovereign and inscrutable.

For the response time, we had placed Post It Notes in the bulletin, all of them emblazoned with Psalm 13's question:  How Long?.

Then, as our band played a glorious version of U2's "40" we invited people to write down the question they had for God or even the frustration they had with him.  Then we encouraged them to place that note on the wall of our Worship Center -- making it, paradoxically, a wall of complaint that was truly a wall of praise.

Here's what it looked like:




Snow or not, I'm glad with what our team put together and how people responded.

Here's a transcript of the sermon itself.  Wherever you read REFRAIN that means Your anger at God is just your praise of God in disguise.

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Now usually I like to get to truth and dwell on truth when we are together on Sundays, but can I start out with a lie today?  A big lie?  One that gets told, re-told, re-re-told to the extent that people accept it as gospel?  One that if you are to second guess people will think you’re a lunatic or heretic or both?  Here it is.  You ready for the Big Lie?  You can’t question God.  I’ve heard that my entire life in ministry.  Heard it uttered by people who were either experiencing – OR, MORE LIKELY, WATCHING OTHER PEOPLE EXPERIENCING – the most painful seasons of life. 

            I remember being on the job two weeks (1990!) and a grandmother lost both her grandson and her infant great-grandson in the same horrific car crash.  And when I was at her house, what was one of the first things she said?  The big lie: “well, I was always taught you can’t question the Lord.”  So I heard it two weeks in and for 23 years since – through divorces, deaths, national tragedies, and personal traumas and the refrain is always the same: “I always heard you can’t question God.”

            And, each time, I’ve come to realize, spoken by people who may be long in church but are short in the bible.  Because the bible is so interesting, so rich, so surprising when you actually READ what it says.  We’re going to look together in just a few minutes at Psalm 13 but before we do, I have to let you know something.  What I’m going to tell you will be old news to some of you and an enormous “A-ha!” to others.  Here it is: the book of Psalms was the hymn book for ancient Israel.  It’s where the people got the songs, the prayers, and the rituals that they used in corporate worship.  It is, more or less, 150 different selections of praise and worship.  Complete with instructions to “Turn & Greet”!  What we do digitally, they did on parchment.  But the result is the same.  And this Psalm 13 is right smack in the front section of this book of praise.  Tuck that away.

 And look at how Psalm 13 begins:
How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?
Impatient, frustrated, insistent . . . and all that gets expressed from person to God.  Now: person here is most likely King David and the setting is probably in the midst of battle, Civil War, flight for his life, or all of the above.  It’s not overly specific – perhaps as a way of showing us that David’s experience is everyone’s experience.  But it’s remarkable to me that David is comfortable enough with God to ask him with such bold, frank, honesty:  “How long?  I’m tired of waiting for your answers, you promise more than you deliver, I need your intervention, and I’m frustrated at your inaction.  HOW LONG ARE YOU GOING TO KEEP ME WAITING?!?”  So to those who have been taught that you can’t question God . . . gulp.  There it is. In the bible itself. 

Then again!  More times! 


How long will you hide your face from me?
How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
    and every day have sorrow in my heart?
    How long will my enemy triumph over me?


Look on me and answer, O Lord my God.
    Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death;
my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,
    and my foes will rejoice when I fall.

Four times in two verses!  Asking!  Complaining!  Kvetching!  Oy vay! 
Awake, O Lord! Why do you sleep?
    Rouse yourself! Do not reject us forever.
24 Why do you hide your face
    and forget our misery and oppression?
And then Psalm 44 & 88 does MORE of the same:
Awake, O Lord! Why do you sleep?
Rouse yourself! Do not reject us forever.
24 Why do you hide your face
and forget our misery and oppression?
Why, O Lord, do you reject me
    and hide your face from me?
You have taken my companions and loved ones from me;
    the darkness is my closest friend. (Psalm 88:14, 18)
See, the people who say you can’t question God overlook (or never knew to begin with) this teeny tiny fact that DOING SO MADE IT INTO THE BIBLE!  There is this overwhelming sense of abandonment in so many of the Psalms – and I love how the bible doesn’t avoid it but acknowledges it.  I love that acknowledgment because I know someone here today has felt or feels today abandoned by God.  And this is the first time you haven’t felt shamed for it.  When that healing you prayed for on behalf of your mom went to someone else instead.  “Hey, that blessing belonged to me!”  When your spouse simply will not change.  When that child of yours spent Christmas in jail . . . and even that seemed better than what would happen to them if they got out.  When you and your spouse sit in that spare bedroom at home, rocking the empty cradle, wondering why the baby you longed for, planned for, and prayed for has never come.  How long? Psalm 13 asks and when it does it gives us permission to ask ourselves.

            And look at Psalm 13:2a again: READ.  That wrestling with thoughts all day long . . . sounds so much like depression, doesn’t it?  Where you can’t get out of your own head?  Some of you know just what it’s like to not want to get out of bed in the morning but instead just to think and think and think.  Like the song, you can’t get it out of your head.  And the depression is debilitating and it’s frustrating as the devil that no despite all the prayers for release, freedom hasn’t come yet.  So yeah, I want to confront the Big Lie, the one that says you can’t question God, and I long for those of you who are now wrestling with or WILL wrestle with that sense of abandonment to be able to voice your frustration.

            I do so out of the sneaking suspicion that your inability to question God will lead to an incapacity to pray.  That since your relationship with God is built on an unbiblical façade (can’t question the Lord!) and not on honest communication, then your relationship – like any human relationship build on a mirage – will slowly but surely drift away.  We’re devoting an entire series to Constant Contact precisely so that doesn’t happen.

            But that’s not where Psalm 13 leaves us.  It takes us someplace better.  Remember how I said that Psalm 13 is in the Hymn Book of the bible?  Which means that those four “how longs?” are in the context of praise.  They are sung!  Ditto with those painful words of Psalm 44 and 88!  In fact, the rawest, most brazen forms of communication with God in all of Scripture are all right here in the Psalms.  Which lets you know that praising God and questioning God are part and parcel of the same thing!  Two sides of the same coin!  To question is to praise!  Psalm 13 itself proves that!  Look: READ 13:5-6: READ.  The frustration at the beginning becomes a song at the end!  The isolation at the start becomes community at the conclusion!  It literally ends in the sanctuary, standing and singing songs of praise!  And so here’s the bottom line, one you’re going to have to mull for awhile for it to penetrate:  Your anger at God is just your praise of God in disguise.

            Yes!  REFRAIN.  Your questioning God &; your frustration with God has hidden with it your worship of God.  The Jews put all these bold, brazen questions in their book of praise because they knew that only when they could be truly honest with God could they authentically give him praise.

            Now: I don’t know if you’ll get answers when you give voice to your questions.  I don’t know if you’ll receive comfort when you vent your anger.  But I DO know the process is healthy – that’s why it made into inspired Scripture – and I also know that God would much rather you be angry with him than ignore him.  I think this is all why the chosen people are called “Israel” – one who struggles with God.  My goodness – all of your most intimate relationships on earth are full of raw emotion and honest back and forth.  Why should it be different with God?

            Do you know why this anger is really just hidden praise?  Because in expressing anger & frustration, you acknowledge that he really is sovereign.  Now this is really, really hard to wrap your mind around.  But God is not powerless in the face of evil and chaos.  He is sovereign over pain and loss.  We want to excuse God from that since it’s easier to minimize God than it is to enlarge our minds.  Psalm 13 and its movement take us to a different place.  What it asks all of us wrestling with what feels like abandonment is this:  can you radically trust the same God who could have prevented it?  Can you?  He could have prevented that divorce, that death, that illness, that job loss, that addiction, that incarceration.  Can you trust him even though he didn’t?  I believe asking questions and expressing anger opens the way to that deeper trust.  I’m mad at you God, but you’re still the only God I got!

            That’s so much better than deciding he is either mean or weak or irrelevant.  That’s what surveys tell us that many in the emerging generations have decided about God. They hear the claims of a God of love; they see the abject misery in the world; and they conclude that the God they’ve heard about briefly either doesn’t exist or doesn’t matter.  That’s so sad.  I have to believe that if more people were exposed to the raw, robust thinking of Psalm 13 and other places where we see people being brutally honest to God, that more and more people would be like, “oh, I get it now.  God’s not my vending machine, God can deal with my questions and my anger, and that’s a God I can believe in & trust.”  REFRAIN.

            Now: before I give you some “hows,” let me pause here.  Because a lot of you are going to be around people who are questioning God or are angry with God or feel abandoned by God.  Listen: don’t jump in and try to explain God!  Don’t offer platitudes or clichés.  Please don’t ever say to someone struggling with the loss of a loved one, “oh, they’re in a better place now.”  Usually, the widow or the child or the parent thinks, “no they’re not.  The best place my loved one could be is right here with me.”  Instead of talking & trying to justify the God who can do a good job of that himself, just . . . be.  Just sit.  Listen to what one of our pastors here did in the face of a parent who’d lost an adult son:
I could not believe it when you call.  You offered to talk and I certainly needed to talk . . . [When I saw my son's body] I thought that I would never pray again.  After my talk with you I was at least able to pray again.  You did not try to explain God -- but showed your empathy.
I read that and thought "that's what pastors and followers of Jesus are to be about."  I love that.  REFRAIN
            And when it’s you in that place & you need that time to praise God in this most unorthodox of ways, know this:  today’s truth is not an excuse to whine, to stay, to land in a state of perpetual anger with God.  It is instead an invitation to honesty.  A place you visit give voice to, and then after a time move to another place.  My goodness I remember that time back in July of 1997 when I thought everything I’d ever worked for at the church in Monroe was going to fall apart.  Been there seven years, seen a lot of good and thought it was all just going to implode.  So I remember the most trusted man in the church came over, we sat outside, and I couldn’t even begin talking before I just started balling. Now: I’ll cry sometimes when Chris sings and at the divorce scene in Hope Floats, but not a lot else. Not this day. So frustrated with people, so confused with God, that it all came pouring out.  He didn’t know what was going on so he did the only logical thing: started crying, too.  Why, Lord?!  Guess what?  Things didn’t get better immediately!  They did eventually.  And that honesty was a critical part of it.  An odd way to praise God, but a way nonetheless.  A Psalm 13 way. REF

            Life works out that way more often than not: with confused tears in summer heat than with a tidy bow and everything’s all better.  But in spite of that ambiguity, what I want so much for you is the freedom to be honest with God.  Whether you write it, sing it, pray it, to give voice.  To have the courage and the intimacy with God to be able to say, “How long? When will you stop hiding your face?  When will you remember me?”  I don’t know when and how he’ll answer; I just now that asking him might just be the loudest praise song you’ll ever sing.


           






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Week In Review; Sunday In Preview
February 15, 2013 at 2:00 am 1
Over the last week, blog topics came faster than I could keep up with them -- a trip to Texas, a story in the Charlotte Observer on Home, Valentines' Love Songs, reflections on self-love, and then yestereday an anecdote shedding light into what kind of community Good Shepherd is becoming.

Along the way, Constant Contact got a bit overlooked.

And I believe it is a truly important series; the kind of inner-life-focused season we needed after the breathtaking ride we took through Home.

This week (February 17), we'll be looking at Psalm 13 and using that as a platform for a message called Honest To God.  Get ready to have a big lie exposed as well as to hear and experience some different definitions of prayer, praise, and worship.

In the meantime, I want to give you the transcript of last week's sermon, Guess Who's Coming To Dinner?  With insights gained from both Andy Stanley and Mark Beeson, I feel like the topic of connection with God is having an good impact on the people of this church.

So here's last Sunday's message which I believe helps pave the way for the one this Sunday:

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I love what I get to talk to you about today.  LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it.  Why?  Because I get to correct one of the most mis-used and mis-applied verses in all the bible.  Isn’t that great?!  Aren’t you excited with me and for me?  Here’s the verse I’m talking about, Revelation 3:20:
Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.
And how do we typically use those words and that image of Jesus knocking on the door (AV)?  Well, we use it with people who are not yet Xns, even youngsters, and we say, “See, Jesus is knocking on the door of your heart, so just open the door, give your heart to him and you’ll be saved!”  Many of you here have had this verse used that way with you.  And you may have used it that way with others.

            And the sentiment of that understanding and application may well be true & right, but there’s one slight problem: that’s NOT what Revelation 3:20 teaches at all.  It actually communicates something far, far different from “non-Xn, open your heart to Jesus now!”  It communicates something better.  That’s why I’m a little adrenaline-fueled today as I talk to you about it.

            Now: why do I burst your bubble with such glee?  Because what Revelation 3:20 says it better than what we think it says.  In Rev. 3:20, John is writing to and Jesus is speaking to a church.  A real church in real time in the real city of Laodicea (AV – map).  So Jesus’ knocking, whatever it is (and we’ll see that shortly) is to the door of a church – collectively and individually – and he is saying to that church, “You are edging me out!  Let me in because you’re my deal to begin with!”  Even more interesting is the city where this church was located, Laodicea.  You know what that city was like?  It was a city known to be a banking center.  It was a city known for its history with textiles and fabrics.  And because it was a prosperous, cosmopolitan city, it was known for a fast paced lifestyle.  Hmmm . . . . banking, textiles, fast-paced.  Sound like any other city you know?  (AV – BOA Tower, Old mill, Lowe’s Motor Speedway & 485 jam at Rush Hour).  So Laodicea was like Charlotte on first century steroids.  They lived this vibe: Audio “life in the fast lane.”

            And the church in that city was caught up in the mindset of that city.  First, look at 3:14 and tuck this away:
“To the angel of the church in Laodicea write: These are the words of the Amen, the faithful and true witness, the ruler of God’s creation.
Note: ruler of God’s creation.  But then Jesus looks at this busy, productive church in the middle of a busy, productive city, and they make him want to puke.  If you don’t believe me, look at 3:16:
So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth
And 3:17 gives a hint into the inflated self-esteem of the Laodicean church:
You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.’ But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked.
They as a congregation and as individuals are so self-sufficient, so full of activity that this is one prideful, accomplished, and active church.  The DO, they DO fast, and they are proud of what they have DONE.  But look at what Jesus says to this high speed, high octane church in 3:19:      
  Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.

            So 3:20, the one we started with, the one that has been mis-applied for so long, is in the context of a larger rebuke.  And many of you know by now context is everything.  But this rebuke Jesus is giving is a rebuke to a church, but it is a rebuke whose heart is love and whose goal is restoration.  So: to people who are saved, who are busy, who do a lot and do it quickly, and who is correcting . . . what does he say?  Look at 3:20a&b:
Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and . . .
            “I will come in and . . . ” and since it’s Jesus speaking we expect the next section to be “come in and give you the rule book.”  Or “come in and read you the riot act.”  Or “come in and give you your next assignment.”  Or “come in and whip you into shape!”  Or, depending on how influenced you’ve been by televangelists through the years, “come in and GUARANTEE YOUR PROSPERITY!”  But none of that is what’s next. 
Instead, it’s
eat with him, and he with me.
 I just want to eat with you, to be with you, to DINE with you.  I don’t want to give you anything to DO; I just want to give you an opportunity to BE.

     See, eating in the time of Jesus was a way of bestowing the greatest honor and dignity upon someone else.  It’s why it was such a shock when Jesus told Zaccheus that he was going to his house that day – how do you take the most reviled man in the city and give him the highest honor?  You can do that when you’re Jesus.  And meals in that day took such a long time.  No such thing as fast food!  Or, excuse me, quick service!  They took time to recline, to talk, to laugh, to rest, to BE.  It was a sign of incredible intimacy.  Jesus says to these high speed Laodicean Xns, you’re so busy with your activity that you don’t know me at all.  So here it is, all you modern Laodiceans, part of a high octane church in a 21st Century city characterized by banking, textiles, and pace:  as pastor Mark Beeson says, Velocity is the enemy of intimacy.  The thing God wants from me and from you more than anything else – time to pause and BE with him – is the thing that our speed of life kills.  REFRAIN.

            Gosh – and this gets me – I remember when I was say between 13 & 17.  And as a lot of you have heard me say before, my dad would take me to play these pretty big youth tennis tournaments all around Texas and the US.  And we’d stay in motels which in those days had motel restaurants.  So that’s where we’d eat many nights.  And so many times when we were finishing with dinner, the server would ask my dad, “would you like a cup of coffee.”  And he’d say, “Why yes I would.”  And UUGGGHH. I knew that meant he was just going to sit and sip and ponder and take his time.  I was finished dinner, I didn’t want coffee -- I STILL don't want coffee! -- and I didn’t much want to be seen in public with my dad, so I’d get all fidgety and finally ask, “can I go back to the room?”  And my dad, who was around 65 by then and pretty mellow, would say, “Yes.”     And I’d leave.

            Now, 35 years later, I realize, “what a jerk I was!”  He just wanted to sit and BE, not go and DO.  And that’s what Jesus is knocking for.  The kind of constant contact where we are human beings and not human doings, where we recognize that doing for Jesus without being with Jesus is a recipe for failure because his heart longing is an intimate, personal connection with the people he has made.  With you.  With me.

            Here’s what is so cool about that.  Remember 3:14? READ.  The Ruler of All wants to have dinner with each!  His greatness and his eternity is best seen in his smallness and his intimacy.  That’s why, given God’s character and desire, REFRAIN

            And let me let you in on a little secret: it’s your heart longing, too.  You just don’t always know it. But you were made for that connection, that intimacy with your father.  And the reason so many of you pursue what you later come to see as false intimacy – whether it’s a string of relationships or the euphoria of a drug high or even the allure of internet porn – is that you have sadly exchanged the authentic for a fake.  You’ve engaged in all kinds of misbehaviors in a misplaced search for intimacy.  And so much of your past and so many of your problems just this minute SNAPPED into focus.  That’s what I’ve been doing all these years!  It’s Jesus’ great wish for you, it’s your genetically designed great desire for him and now is the time to realize REFRAIN.

            Now: for a lot of you, to talk about intimacy with God and dining with Jesus is like (Twilight Zone music).  Or it’s like trying to nail a bowl full of jello to a tree.  It just doesn’t compute; it’s all slithery and imprecise.  And can I confess something?  Me too!  Sometimes I’m like, “Oh Jesus! (Treating him JUST like I treated my dad in those motel restaurants.) I’m too busy to just BE with you!  I’ve got a church to lead and sermons to prepare and people to visit and money to raise.  I can’t mess around just BEING.”  And when I’m like that, you know what he does?  He wakes me up at 3 a.m. and I can’t get back to sleep.  So I’ll get a book and start to read and he’s like “nope.  I got you up to pray for India (AV).” And so I’m like “can I just pray here under the covers?”  “Nope. Get out of bed, in a position of prayer, and pray for your pastor friends in India.”  So, grudgingly, I do it.  Now: God can make good things happen in our Indian network without my prayers.  But he can’t make good things happen in ME without them.  He wants to hear me, me to hear him.  He wants me to slow down even if he has to wake me up to get me there.  REFRAIN.

            Gosh, I just have this dream.  What would we be like as a people and as a church if each Sunday gathering was full of folks who in the previous week had stopped their lives at least once a day to allow their souls to catch up with their bodies?  What would we be like if our community was full of people who rested, who read, who prayed, who listened?  Who took that time simply to BE with their Lord and and to let their Savior BE with them? Who let his love wash all over them?  Because I remember when our first child was born and holding her the day we brought her home and all I wanted to do was hold her, love her, whisper to her, and smell her head.  It was a different kind of love than I’d ever had before.  And then I realized: that’s pretty much what God wants from me – to allow him to hold me, whisper to me, smell me, love me.

            We believe in this so much, we’ve got a tool we going to give you as you leave BUT we’re going to practice with you NOW.


Lights down.  Screens on.  Words appearing/dissolving as if speaking from God to person:

GOOD MORNING

SIT. REST. OPEN YOUR PALMS. BREATHE.

DID YOU KNOW I’VE DECLARED THAT YOU ARE “FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE”?  I HAVE.

DID YOU KNOW NOTHING YOU CAN DO CAN EVER SEPARATE YOU FROM MY LOVE?  IT CAN’T.

DID YOU KNOW THAT IF YOU HAVE TO DECIDE BETWEEN ACTIVITY FOR ME AND TIME WITH ME, I WANT YOU TO CHOOSE TIME?

SO. NOW.  TIME.

HEAR THAT I LOVE YOU.





















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A Big Church . . . Or Something Else?
February 14, 2013 at 2:00 am 0
During our most recent Next Step group, a woman made the most interesting observation about Good Shepherd:

This is not a big church.  It's a church where a lot of people belong.

And I did what I always do in a situation like that:  exclaimed "that will preach!" and then wrote it down to keep for future use.

Like today.

But I so love that sentiment.  She meant that in her experience GSUMC does not feel large and impersonal; it instead conveys warmth and intimacy in spite of the crowds.

Whatever size we have is possible because we go to great lengths to feel small.  That's why:

  • Our band, choir, and Sunday teachers don't spend the moments before the service begin in some sort of Green Room.  Instead, we're out among the congregation, making new friends and reconnecting with old ones.  That way, when the worship service actually starts, it's clear that whatever leadership is on the platfor is first and foremost part of the community.
  • We send a lot of hand written notes.  A lot.
  • People in the church make and deliver meals for one another in times of both sadness and celebration.  Recently a new couple in church suffered a miscarriage -- and approached me two Sundays later to express their astonishment that someone they didn't even know brought a sympathy meal to them.
  • We try really hard to learn and remember names.
  • We try just as hard to return phone calls and emails on the same day they come in.
  • We have a full-time employee who has the job title of "Congregational Care" -- some churches our size and style have opted not to staff such a position but rely on small groups to handle care.  Both methods have strengths and weaknesses; we have simply chosen this route.
We get a lot of things wrong here and I make more than my fair share of mistakes.

But with my new friend's definition in mind, may gain strength by never getting big.  But may we always be a place where a whole lot of people belong.
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A Theology Of Masturbation
February 13, 2013 at 2:00 am 5
Yes, you read the post title correctly.

I remember the time in seminary when one of our professors quipped, "Masturbation is the opposite of the weather.  With the weather, everyone discusses it, but no one can actually do anything about it .  With masturbation . . . well, you know the rest."

So it's a time to talk about it.  It's time to talk about it because of the impact of the Home sermon series & Radical Impact Project and how our church linked the rising use of porn with the increasing demand for underage girls in the sex trafficking industry.

It's time to talk about it because I've seen its impact on singles and marrieds alike.

It's time to talk about it because we understand the act in a toxic mix of humor, avoidance, and shame -- but rarely do we discuss from a theological perspective.

Which takes us to Scripture's earliest words regarding human sexuality:

For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother, cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.  Genesis 2:24

The two shall become one flesh.  When a man and woman unite sexually, they create something that did not exist before.  It's not a series of isolated acts with disconnected partners as if we are nothing more than two-legged alley cats.  In God's design it's a deeply spiritual experience in which body and soul, heart and spirit connect in vulnerability and pleasure.

And I suspect that the exchanging of bodily fluids in that intimate act in a sense puts a "seal" on that new creation.  Seen from God's perspective, sex forges a new bond and forever links you to that partner whether you realize it or not.

What does all this sex-as-spirituality talk have to do with masturbation?

Think about it.  If sex creates something that did not exist before and forges an irrevocable bond with your partner and if bodily fluids seal that new creation, then in masturbation you are becoming one with . . . yourself.

It is the ultimate self-retreat.  And leads towards self-obession.  Which is why I've had counseling with wives who are at the same time desolate and confused:  why does he have no interest in me but only interest in himself

The theological answer is this:  because he's becoming one with himself.

The clinical answer looks like this:

Two brain chemicals play a powerful role in addiction. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that enables you to feel pleasurable emotions, and endorphins are chemicals released during stress and physical activity that allow you to recover and feel at ease. When you masturbate, the body releases dopamine to enable you to feel sexual pleasure, and frequently releases endorphins when you’re done masturbating. Over time, this frequent release of brain chemicals can become addictive. Because endorphins and dopamine can help you cope with stress, people experiencing extraordinary stress or mental health problems are especially likely to become addicted to the release of these chemicals that occurs with masturbation. Thus frequent masturbation can become an unhealthy coping mechanism that causes you to avoid – rather than address – your problems.

Whether it's theological or clinical, the result is much the same: increasing isolation and compounding addiction.  Not in every case, mind you, but in way more than you want to admit.

Masturbation is not boys will be boys.

It's not everyone does it.

It's not even  I need a daily release.

Seen theologically, it is instead that which can often appeal to all of our worst instincts -- instant pleasure and self-obsession -- while undermining God's inherently creative gift of sexual intimacy.

 

 





 
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