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Words That Are Especially True When Your Kids Are 23 And 20
April 18, 2013 at 1:00 am 0
In her memoir Lots Of Candles, Plenty Of Cake, Anna Quindlen offers these reflections on marriage, longevity, and parenting:

If a marriage is to endure over time, it has to be because both people within it have tacitly acknowledged something that young lovers might find preposterous:  it's bigger, and more important, than both of us.  It's love, sure, and inside jokes and conversational shorthand.  But it's also families, friends, traditions, landmarks, knowledge, history.  It's children, children whose parents' marriage is bedrock for them even if they're not children anymore.  Perhaps especially if they're not children anymore.

I'm not sure I've ever read a better take on a more important subject.


 

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A Tale Of Two Tourist Stops
April 17, 2013 at 1:00 am 0
For our final day in San Diego, I spent time at two tourist destinations.

One of them was what everyone does while in the city: the San Diego Zoo.  In a word: as good as advertised. 

(Actually, that's four words, but you get what I'm saying.)

Whether it was jaguars, pandas, or gorillas, the animals were close enough to touch and active enough to be appreciated.

The second tourist stop was one I imagine very few people go to: The Bobby Riggs Museum.

What?

Some of you remember Bobby Riggs: he was 55-year-old former tennis champion who challenged Billie Jean King to a $100,000 winner-take-all "Battle of The Sexes" in Houston, Texas in 1973.  If you were around then, you remember that it was one of the cultural milestones of the era.



The match summed up so many emerging social issues of that time: gender roles, commercialism in sports, and even the surging popularity of tennis which went from the enclaves of country clubs to the cover of Time Magazine in just a couple of years.



And, in case you didn't know, Billie Jean King demolished Riggs in three straight sets and set the stage for the enduring popularity of women's tennis -- from Chris Evert through Martina Navratilova and all the way to today's Serena Williams.

Well, there was a lot more to Bobby Riggs than that match in 1973.  He won Wimbledon's Triple Crown in 1939 -- Men's Singles, Men's Doubles, and Mixed Doubles.  He also won the U.S. Nationals (now called the U.S. Open) in both 1939 and 1941.  In fact, if it hadn't been for World War II and all the tournaments that went unplayed during those four years, Riggs might have many more majors to his credit.



The museum itself is sort of non-descript -- it occupies a couple of large rooms within a tennis club in Encinitas, California. 

But on the inside is a tennis lover's dream: vintage photos of Jack Kramer, Pancho Segura, Margaret Court, and yes, even Billie Jean King, along with World Tennis Magazine covers from the 60s, 70s, and 80s.  I stayed for about 30 minutes but easily could have turned it into four or five hours.

So: a world famous zoo and an almost unknown tennis museum in one day.  Guess which one made a bigger impact?



 
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A Sunday At North Coast Calvary Chapel
April 15, 2013 at 1:00 am 3
While Julie is out in the San Diego area at a conference for professionals in the medical field, I am tagging along, serving as a VP's husband.

So while her conference was beginning on Sunday morning, I took the opportunity to go to the 8:45 worship service at North Coast Calvary Chapel in Carlsbad.


North Coast (or, as they call it, NC3) is part of the Calvary Chapel movement, the brainchild of Chuck Smith -- one of the most genial yet insightful proclaimers of the gospel you'll ever hear.


Smith started the original Calvary Chapel in Costa Mesa, California in the early 1970s and made ministry inroads through an approach that combined casual atmosphere, modern music, and verse-by-verse teaching of the Scriptures.

From there, the movement exploded across that country and today includes some of the largest churches in the nation.  In fact, Charlotte has a Calvary Chapel that gathers in the facility of a former United Methodist Church.  You can read the entire Calvary Chapel story here.

The North Coast congregation is, by all appearances, one of the most vibrant in the Calvary Chapel connection.  I arrived at about 8:20 for the 8:45 service -- my body clock was still on Eastern Time -- and the band was still rehearsing.  The lead singer has a voice and even a vibe that reminds me of the 4 Non Blondes from the early 1990s.  Don't remember them?  Here they are:


Upon my arrival, I was one of about 10 people in the Worship Center.  At 8:30 a man stood up, introduced himself, and offered morning devotion.  Huh?  It had no context for me, but must make sense in the Calvary Chapel culture.  But as people were streaming in for the service, he was on the platform sharing about having a Mary heart in a Martha world (Luke 10:38-42).  Then he was done, sat down, and the 4 Non Blonde band came back out.

They took us in a quite different direction that I remember 4NB's ever going.  The highlight was a modernized take on Because He Lives, which is a really great song when you think about it.

We next took up an offering.  I am so used to the Good Shepherd custom -- in the giving baskets as you leave, please -- that I forget the central role this moment has for many churches.

Oh, remember how I said I was one of about 10 people at 8:20?  By 8:45, I was one of about 100.  By 9:00 I was one of about 500.  By 9;15, I'd estimate I was one of about 700.  The NC3's Worship Center has approximately the same dimensions as Good Shepherd and it was essentially full by the mid point of the service.  I know Pacific Time is three hours later than Eastern Standard Time but still.

Then came about 8-10 minutes worth of church announcements.  For a church with multiple thousands of people on a weekend, they communicate about congregational life in an old-school format.  I'm sure that helps a large church feel personal and intimate.

Anyway, by now it was time for Pastor Mark Foreman to deliver a classic Calvary Chapel message.  Remember I said verse-by-verse?  That's what he did, drawing from only two verses this time -- Romans 12:1-2:

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.


The message came from no series other than "We're all reading through the bible in a two year span, and here's where we are" but it was still quite good.  Foreman spoke at length about follow through in the life of someone who follows Christ, comparing it to the follow through of a baseball swing, a golf swing, and, yes, thankfully, a tennis swing.  At that stage I was ready to get up and give a topspin backhand demonstration.

Discretion was the better part of valor.  Considering we were in SoCal and considering that I haven't been on a court in about five years, there were probably dozens of people in that room who could have done it better than me anyway.

I stayed all the way until the last song but didn't fill out a connection card, respond to the invitation for salvation, or connect with a Home Group.  I could have done any of those as they all received attention and explanation.

I didn't do any of that because I already have a home church and a LifeGroup, in case you didn't know.

Speaking of which, the best part of the whole Sunday church experience was a text message I received from a Good Shepherd friend late in the day:

Church was great today.  Joey H and Chris M sang a song that sounded like a real record it was so good.  James-Michael Smith hit the sermon out of the park.  All percussion band.  You should be proud.

And, from a continent away, so I am
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Man On The Run, Week 2 — Rundown
April 12, 2013 at 1:00 am 0




We've been saying throughout this series, "Jonah is not about a guy in a fish.  It's about a man on the run."  

And so it is.

But the part about the fish isn't so bad.

To see what that's all about, check out Rudown.

Sunday.

8:30.  10.  11:30.
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Psychologizing Vs. Theologizing
April 11, 2013 at 1:00 am 1
It is awfully easy in the pastorate to slip into the role of armchair psychologist.

Which means this: when people make appointments to meet with me in my office to discuss a pressing life issue, I listen reflectively, probe background and even childhood issues, and try to read between the lines of the conversation to see if the "presenting" issue is the "real" issue in the person's life or if something else is going on.

And in many instances, God brings hope and healing out of those conversations.

But because I have grown accustomed to that therapeutic model of ministry, I less frequently adopt the role for which I am actually trained: congregational theologian.

Which really isn't as intimidating as it sounds.

Because it's a matter of bringing the conversation/issue/dilemma back to what we all wrestle with at our core:  our connection to God. What we call at Good Shepherd a living relationship with Jesus Christ.

Moving the conversation Godward (is that even a word?) with some of the following:

What's your understanding of how Scripture speaks into this?

Where is it that God is stretching you here?

What would surrender to Christ look like here?

Have you considered the role of the Holy Spirit in your healing?

Where is your story lining up with the biblical story?


Here's the real reason I'm sharing this with you: whether it's as a parent or spouse or friend, what kind of advice are you giving to those in your care?

Perhaps if we helped people grow and stretch in their theology then their psychology would be well on its way to healing itself.

Moms and dads: do your kids know more about Dr. Phil or Dr. Luke?

Are they bigger fans of Johnny Knoxville or John the beloved?

Are they spending time developing lightning fast thumbs through their mastery of video games or anchoring their lives on the ancient stories of creation, isolation, redemption, and summation that we find in Scripture?

Because I think what I'm discovering in pastoral ministry is what a lot of us need in our households: the kind of theological depth that answers many of our psychological needs.







 
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