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Top Five Tuesday — Top Five Sermons That Help People Rebuild
May 24, 2016 at 3:03 am 0
With some frequency, people will approach me after a Sunday at Good Shepherd and say, "that was just like a therapy session in a room with hundreds of other people." And I think to myself, "And thank God for that."  See, much of preaching (not all of it, mind you, but much of it) involves helping people rebuild areas of their lives that have become broken.  A good sermon -- or, better yet, a good series of sermons -- gives people both information and inspiration as they journey from rubble into redemption.  Here are five areas in particular that I have noticed and we at Good Shepherd have addressed. 1. Marriages & Households.  What ministry is more important in the 21st Century that keeping marriages healthy and households together?  None.  That's why we at Good Shepherd schedule at least two series a year that focus on the nooks and crannies (Hey!  That phrase will be a series one day!) of daily interactions between spouses, parents, siblings, and . . . wait for it . . . in laws.  Among the most memorable was Home which had the tagline:  Healing our homes while building a home that heals.   2.  Faith.  Whether it's the professor who seems so much smarter than you in your first semester of college or simply the fact that the loved one over whom you prayed healing still died, it's easy these days to lose faith.  Some people stop believing that God exists; others admit that he may still be great but seriously doubt whether or not he is good; and still others doubt whether Jesus is really any different from any other great religious leader or not.  That's why our 2014 series The Shadow Of A Doubt asked, "what would happen if instead of hiding in the shadow of our doubt, we exposed them to light?"  Abingdon Press agreed with the premise!   3.  Identity.  In my experience, many people slowly but surely equate who they are with what they've done.  So they become:  addict, adulterer, failure.  Or on the other end of the spectrum:  champion, boss, millionaire.  Well, well your identity is confused with your performance, you're in need of some serious rebuilding.  That's why Only Human dug into Psalm 8 and celebrated the beauty of its central question:  "What is man, that you are mindful of him?"   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6LFnIi09ps   4.  Hope.  Face it: when the majority of people who vote in November of 2016 will vote against someone far more then they will vote for someone, we live in a cynical world.  Hope is elusive at best, misplaced at worst.  So people gather together, Sunday after Sunday, in search of some hope.  And with series such as The Storm Before The Calm, we have tried to provide just that.   5.  Habits.  What's the saying?  It takes only a minute to start a bad habit (smoking, excessive drinking) but 30 days to start a good one.  People in the 21st Century allow life to crowd good habits out, making it easy for bad habits to sneak in.  That's why a good chunk of 2016 has been devoted to helping people develop those daily habits of reading, prayer, and reflection.  And our two guidebooks, PrayFast and Preventology, have been enormously popular.  Who knows?  I might even have a series called Creature Of Habit later this year.   Preventology Live   So rebuilding the broken places in our lives is a recurring theme of preaching and ministry at Good Shepherd.  It's also behind the recently released book Solve, in which I take a look at Nehemiah and how he is able to steer the remarkable rebuilding of the Jerusalem wall in 445 BC.  You can pick up your own copy of Solve -- ideal for personal study, small group use, or an all church project -- here.   9781501816482

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Preventology, Week 2 — “The Butterfly Sex Effect” Sermon Rewind
May 23, 2016 at 3:47 am 0
Below is "The Butterfly Sex Effect," a message in which I:
  • Acknowledged a place in life where the Hindu/Buddhist concept of karma rings uncomfortably true;
  • Confessed to having personal space issues;
  • Referenced John Mellencamp, England Dan & John Ford Coley, and Timbuk 3;
  • Declared to singles:  "if God can raise the dead, he can keep your pants on";
  • Moved from meteorology to biology to family dynamics;
  • Talked about a modern American Adultery Hall Of Shame;
  • Tried to contaminate people's fantasies.
  • After several wordsmithing attempts, arrived at this bottom line . . . a bottom line in which the cadence means everything:
Stay away . . . from those who don't see the way . . . life is connected.     -------------------------------------------------- I assume many of you have heard of what they call the “Butterfly Effect.”  It’s the notion that a butterfly flapping its wings at a certain time and in a certain way in Rio de Janeiro will influence the atmosphere just enough that three weeks later Texas will have an outbreak of tornadoes rather than a week of sunshine.  The smallest actions in one place have enormous consequences someplace else.  With the “B.E.” comes the idea of that all of life is connected, inter-related and that is it naïve to think that an action you take HERE won’t have a consequence somewhere else.                  And if you ponder it at all, it is sort of true on its face, is it not?  That everything about us and our present will one day become our past which will influence our future?  There is no decision or action taken in absolute isolation from every other decision or action.  Take the concept out of the realm of meteorology & put it into the realm of biology.  You know enough about the human body to know that 3 packs a day NOW makes it exponentially more likely that you will contract lung cancer THEN.  Life is related, nothing is isolated.  A six pack a night that becomes two leads to job loss, family upheaval, a night in jail and a stint in rehab.  It’s all connected.  I’m not telling you anything you don’t know; just reminding you of what you may have forgotten.                  It’s all connected – beyond biology and into relationships.  When Nancy Reagan died a couple of months ago, her daughter Patti Davis – who’d had a frankly tortured relationship w/ her mom – wrote this incredibly insightful line:  “to understand our parents we must know theirs.”  Whoa.  And I know so little given the age of my parents!  So wise.  It’s all connected.  How you were parented has everything to do with how your parents were parented.  And how you are parenting today has everything to do with how you were parented yesterday. Moms & dads: that’s what you’re doing to your own children – for good and for ill – on this very day.  Small actions today have enormous implications tomorrow.  And there’s one other area in which clarity & wisdom come from seeing the B.E. at work and heartache & isolation come from ignoring:  romance, intimacy, sex, and marriage.                  See, where digging into Proverbs in this Preventology series.  And not just because both begin with “P.”  But because Proverbs is all about preventing crises rather than managing them.  And as we get to Ch. 5 of this remarkable collection of wisdom, the book takes on the feel of a father-son / teacher-student lecture, and the seriousness of the upcoming subject is apparent in 5:1a:   My son, pay attention to my wisdom,   Hey son!  Listen up! Next sentence:   turn your ear to my words of insight,   Same idea, spoken a slightly different way.  This upcoming terrain is exceedingly imp so pay attn.                 And then look at 5:3:   For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey,     and her speech is smoother than oil;   The lips of the woman. Not her beauty, just what she says.  Not how she looks, what she thinks.  Not the visual.  The verbal.  Now: this particular dialog is in the form of father-son, so the warning is against an adulterous woman, but can we be adult enough to realize that it goes both ways? That it’s speaking just as clearly about guys on the make?  About playuhs?!  Because look at the bitterness that comes from succumbing to adultery’s words in 5:4:   but in the end she is bitter as gall,     sharp as a double-edged sword.   Now: jump down to 5:11-12 – we’re GONNA circle back, but I really want you to see this now –    At the end of your life you will groan,     when your flesh and body are spent. 12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!     How my heart spurned correction!                 You know what this is?  Old Man Regret!  Old Lady Regret!  So vivid.  The ultimate coulda woulda shoulda.  And I see that and the litany begins in my mind:  John Edwards (AV). Mark Sanford (AV). Jimmy Swaggart (AV). Bill Clinton (AV).  Not even just guys – we've even had female pastors in the UMC throw ministries away with affairs.  Those exposed by Ashley Madison.  Hi profile ppl with the world by its tail, a future so bright you gotta wear shades, and throw it away for (good) old-fashioned adultery.  Living examples of Proverbs 5:11-12.  Momentary excitement in exchange for lifetime of embarrassment & shame and “how could yous?!?!”                  But really, it’s not just the ones on the news who get me; it’s the anonymous ones.  The ones I know.  Here.  And ones I DON’T KNOW. Both those for whom Prov. 5 has already happened and the weight is incredibly heavy AND those who are slowly, imperceptibly inching there … & I am praying my words are helping prevent.  Those who are snacking, flirting, fantasizing.  Because remember the series?  Preventology!  What do I want to prevent with this?  Not only affiars but the hauting, hurting, body aching regret that follows.  I long for the people of this church NOT to experience the bitter reality of Proverbs 5:11-12. Proverbs paints the picture and then says, “Don’t be that guy!  Don’t be that girl!”                 And do you know where all this starts and how all this related?  Look at 5:6, realizing it applies to adulterous men as well:   She gives no thought to the way of life;     her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it.   Oh!  She/he sees life as a series is isolated, disconnected encounters!  That what you do with your body & heart in the moment has NO BEARING on the moments that will follow.  And you know who else thinks that way?  THE WHOLE USA!  Higher ed.  Hollywood.  Ashley Madison.  The internet.  Life is disconnected and you have encounter A, B, C, D & they isolated from each other and not related to the rest of your life.  What a load of bull! Scripture pains SUCH a different picture & all of life is a connected web – more strongly with sex & romance than anywhere else – and every event has consequences that are unavoidable.  (Buddhists & Hindus have something on us!  Sexual karma is right!)  That’s why some of you who “sowed your wild oats” before you married after been unable to settle down afterwards – because patterns, habits, consequences have an ongoing ripple effect.                  It’s all related.  It’s why it’s the Butterfly Sex Effect.  And that is much more profound in marriage.  There are people out there and people in here who continue to see sexuality & fidelity as independent, isolated actions of two bodies rather than as a deeply related mingling of two souls.  And look what Proverbs says in light of all that in 5:7-8, noting the repeated command to “listen” (DOUBLY serious):  READ.  Stay away. Don’t go near.  So here it is, people for whom I want to prevent heartache & trauma:  Stay away . . . from those who don't see the way . . . life is connected.  Some guys & some girls willingly or unwillingly don’t see the butterfly sex effect.  Don’t be that guy/girl.  More important, don’t go near them.  Especially, ESPECIALLY, if you find them attractive.  Disconnect from those who don’t see the way life connects.   Stay away . . . from those who don't see the way . . . life is connected.                 Because here’s what I know some married people are doing right now.  You find that guy or that girl attractive.  You’re sniffing the air, snacking on the fantasy.  Flirting we often call it.  And online life, digital life, throws a whole new dimension into those possibilities.  You’re not necessarily thinking affairs now . . . but you’re inching towards the line.  Will they FB me?  Will they text me back?  Will they think I’m funny?  Will they will they will they?  Listen: you tempt fate in that way and fate wins!  And the ache of Prov 5:11-12 will be yours.  Stay away . . . from those who don't see the way . . . life is connected.                 And get this, guys, especially, though I’m sure it applies to females as well:  no one flirts from a position of security.  You get flattered. She compliments, he touches, she texts, he sends a note . . . your endorphins release, you feel 16 again, and all of a sudden it’s GAME ON.  Let me bring you down to earth.  No one flirts from a place of security.  You are just on the receiving end of that person’s insecurity, expressed as flirtation.  Worse:  you’re not the first & you won’t be the last.  It’s all from his insecurity, his lack of confidence & the more vulnerable you are to it, the more you are becoming temporarily blind to life’s connections.  I’m here to throw cold water on all that  (DO IT????) ; to contaminate your fantasy.  It’s not love, it’s not you belonged to someone else when the right one came along; it’s a deep pathology.  This affair that is suddenly in front of you is in no way isolated, disconnected.  It’s butterfly sex and the tsunami it will cause will be deadly.  Stay away . . . from those who don't see the way . . . life is connected.                 Beyond all that, you who are increasingly vulnerable to flirtation.  Here’s an obvious sexual equation: he who will cheat with you will cheat on you. She. You are living, bodily proof of that fact.  That’s why the few affairs that turn into remarriage have a perfectly dismal record of longevity.  Duh.                  Can I have a word to singles?  Look at Hebrews 13:4: keep the marriage bed pure.  Oh, Lord, keeping the marriage bed pure starts BEFORE you’re married.  Now.  I don’t care about your history.  I know that a whole lot of people have already broken boundaries in this area of life.  But here’s what else I know: if Jesus can raise the dead, he can keep your pants on from now on.  He can.  You are in his image.  You are his precious possession.  So by his power & grace & intervention, resolve:  I’m having a pure bed from now on.  Because I guarantee that level of post-marital faithfulness is directly related to the level of pre-marital purity.  You may think a message on preventing affairs & their bitter aftermath doesn’t apply to you singles, but it does. Stay away . . . from those who don't see the way . . . life is connected.                 So: how?  How does this knowledge of a principle – REFRAIN – get lived out.  Is it OK if I get very practical here? You can even jot this stuff down?                 First, look at 5:2:   that you may maintain discretion     and your lips may preserve knowledge.   I love that.  You know that the erosion of public discretion has led to the erasure of private discipline, right?  We’re not discreet about anything anymore. That’s why FB, Instagram, and Snapchat.  Hey: be discreet.  If you got it, you don’t need to flaunt it!                 Second, maybe you’ve heard of the wedding ceremony where they had a unity candle moment & afterwards the bride & groom both blew their candles out after lighting the new one.  The preacher turned and said to the congregation: “That means no old flames.”  BOOM!  Right! Close the door on all that.  The internet makes all kinds of reconnections possible that make you hold on to 16 as long as you can . . . but you can’t.  So don’t.                  Third, do not confide about marital probs with anyone of them opposite sex.  I’ve had so many say to me in adultery’s aftermath, “Oh, he was my confidante.”  No, he wanted to sleep with you.                 Fourth, speak well of your mate in public.  Populate your work space with photos.  On so many occasions, I meet people Julie works with & they always say, “Oh, I feel like I know you so well already?”  Why? Because she tells them about me.  What a gift!  Which so speaks to what Proverbs 5 tells is the ultimate in affair prevention: look at 5:18-20:    May your fountain be blessed,     and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—     may her breasts satisfy you always,     may you ever be intoxicated with her love. 20 Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?     Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?   I love that!  Want what you already have.  Instead of intoxication with the new & the strange, drink deeply and drunkenly from who you already have.  And if you’re like, “yeah, but he’s not as good looking as new guy! She’s not as hot as affair girl!” then look in the mirror. Neither are you.  Cold water.  Want, desire, learn to long for what is already have.           Because I in contrast to all those John Edwards-esque headlines, I have dreams of new ones (AV):  PASTOR STAYED FAITHFUL LAST NIGHT.  CHRISTIAN BUSINESSWOMAN KEPT HER VOWS.  LOCAL CHURCH REPORTS A DIVORCE-FREE  YEAR.  PROVERBS 5:11-12 A THING OF THE PAST.                  Why?  All of life is connected.  And just how much?  Listen to this from Time Magazine, from an issue called Unfaithfully Yours: Or is marriage an institution that still hews to its old intention & function – to raise the next generation, to protect and teach it, to instill in it the habits of conduct and character that will ensure the generation’s own safe passage into adulthood.  Think of it this way: the current generation of children, the one watching commitments between adults snap like dry twigs and observing parents who simply can’t be bothered to marry each other and who drift in and out of their children’s lives – that’s the generation who will be taking care of us when we are old.   Get sermon tips and updates from my Sermon Help newsletter.
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The Improbable Origin Of “Solve”
May 19, 2016 at 7:18 am 0

I remember exactly where I was when I first had the idea for the sermon series that formed the basis for the book Solve.

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At Good Shepherd Church we support a lot of recovery programs, which hold their meetings at our Zoar Road campus. Many of these meetings are open to the public, so that you can attend them even if you are not a participant. I drop by periodically just to show those communities how much Good Shepherd loves what they are about.

Anyway, a while back I was in an open meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous, with probably forty people there, and as usual I was awestruck by the raw spirituality of the environment. During the sharing time a man said the following words that still stick with me: “We don’t have a drinking problem. We have a drinking solution. We’ve got all kinds of problems—marriage, parents, self-esteem, money—and what we all have in common in this room is that our solution to those problems has been to drink them away!”

I heard that and immediately I thought, “I may have just heard the single most brilliant insight into anything, anywhere in my life.” So I ran out to the car, wrote it down, and six months later I was preaching the first sermon in a series about our solutions and our problems.

That’s why the first chapter in Solve is called “Problemists.” As we jump from this insight from Alcoholics Anonymous into Scripture and back into our lives, it fascinates me how much we confuse our problems and our solutions. I think you’ll see, as I have found, that often our so-called solutions often end up being the sources of problems. And what’s needed in those situations is for us to turn away from our false solutions to true ones.

I see the same thing in myself. I had a sick day awhile back and was just feeling rotten about myself, as if getting sick meant that I was somehow failing at my ministry. Makes total sense, right? Sickness equals failure or poor job performance! Of course that’s not true at all, but such was my thinking. Anyway, at the end of the day I binged on a bag of Gluten Free Sweet Potato chips. But now I realize: I didn’t have a chip problem.  I had a chip solution. Chips were my solution to my larger problem of irrational insecurity!

 Many of us, if we are being honest with ourselves, will recognize that we do the same thing all too often.  Some of us bounce relationship to relationship to relationship, looking for something in a significant other that’s always elusive. We always think that the next relationship will give us the fulfillment that we feel we lack. If that’s you, I want you to realize now that you don’t have a relationship problem. You have a relationship solution! For others, perhaps it’s gone to the next level and involves jumping from one spouse to the next, hoping the next one will be “right.” Friends, that’s not a marriage problem; it’s a marriage solution. The same can be said for those who spend too much time on the internet, looking at certain websites. It’s not a pornography problem, but a pornography solution. Some of us, perhaps, shop compulsively, chasing satisfaction through acquiring possessions. But again, that is not a shopping problem; it’s a shopping solution. There are many, many situations to which we could apply this same logic.

I have even seen this type of thing happen in the church, where people confuse the problem for the solution. Some people will hop from church to church, or from leader to leader, or from author to author, always in search of the perfect version. But what’s really going on is that they are trying to find in a person what only a living relationship with Jesus Christ can accomplish. It’s not a church problem; it’s a church solution. And there’s a real, underlying problem that only the Lord of the church can provide. 

(The preceding is an excerpt from Chapter One of Solve, which you can order here.  You can also attend the Book Signing Celebration on Monday, June 20th, 2016, and buy a book at the event.)
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The Captain Obvious Of Preaching
May 18, 2016 at 3:37 am 1
Maybe you've seen the recent spate of commercials for Hotels.com featuring Captain Obvious.  Here's one of the best: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DHd4ui_ZWc   I have noticed in the communication field that it is all too easy to succumb to the "Captain Obvious Trap." One of the commentators on the Tennis Channel, for example, is notorious for telling viewers that "Wow, Novak Djokovic is really flexible," or "Man, can John Isner serve," or "Rafael Nadal puts so much topspin on his forehand" . . . all observations that are, well, obvious.  What we'd like to know is how does Djokovic have such superhuman flexibility, what is it like to return Isner's servce, or what about Nadal's grip makes such topspin possible?  Such information would move the commentary from the obvious to the insightful. Preaching is much the same way. In fact, I believe that "The Captain Obvious" trap is one of the church's great sermon killers. Sermons become obvious when they resort to platitudes like these:
  • God loves you.  (The only way to make that platitude worse is to say "God love you and I."  He doesn't.  He loves you and me.)
  • Serve one another.
  • Be kind.
  • The Church needs more togetherness and more unity.
  • We gotta get more people coming to church.
All those sermonic points are true.  They're just not very interesting. See, moving from obvious to insightful doesn't mean finding new truths.  Lord knows that I am not a fan of that.  We celebrate that we can excavate the old and the unchanging at Good Shepherd. But moving from obvious to insightful does involve both wordsmithing -- a task that takes much time, many failures, and hours of energy -- and observation -- the ability to notice and articulate what is subtly true and yet painfully ignored in many people's lives. Wordsmithing, for example, allows John Mark McMillan to transform the truth of God's love into a scandalously vivid image in his song   How He Loves: "heaven meets earth like a sloppy wet kiss"    I bet your grandmom never used that as an example of God's love for you.  I'll also bet you'll never forget it.  Why?  It's not obvious, but it is insightful. Wordsmithing allowed one of the messages in the recent The Light At The Beginning Of The Tunnel series to describe eternity in this most unexpected way:  "Paradise isn't a place you go.  It's a Person who comes."  Because its description of the hereafter was anything but obvious, that particular message generated as much conversation as any one I can remember at Good Shepherd. Observation allows Andy Stanley to give voice to what most of us might notice but never consider.  Some of his best:
  • Wise people know what they don't know.
  • We aren't mistakers. We're sinners.
  • Good people don't go to heaven.  Forgiven people do.
  • Nobody expected no body (an Easter sermon).
  • Falling in love is easy.  Staying in love is hard.
Obvious?  Not a one.  Insightful?  Every single time. Among the truths nestled in Solve are these that I pray move well beyond the obvious and into the insightful:
  • When you admit that your solutions are your problems, God surrounds you with his promises.
  • You only get rid of what you refuse to get used to.
  • Move on what you're moved by.
  • God sends opposition to grow desperation.
  • Leaving your mark isn't about what you accomplish.  It's about who you influence.
You can be part of the first wave of solutionists -- people who opt for the insightful over the obvious -- by purchasing Solve here. Together we can leave Captain Obvious on the television screen and bring biblical insight into the pulpit.    
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Top Five (Christian) Books For Summer Reading
May 17, 2016 at 3:47 am 0
If you are at all like me, you do more reading during the summer than any other time of the year. The sun on your face, the sand between your toes, the clock permanently set at 5 o'clock somewhere and voila! you get to gorge on some reading. And most of the time, for most of us, what occupies our reading time consists of novels, histories, and biographies. But what about those books that specifically advance your spiritual life?  Or, as we say it at Good Shepherd, your living relationship with Jesus Christ. Can spiritual reading and summer vacation possibly co-exist? Here are five titles that may just allow a "yes" to that question. 1. John Stott, Basic Christianity.  Think of CS Lewis' Mere Christianity, only much more understandable.  Stott is concise yet compelling, deep yet deliberate.  There's enough meet here for the veteran and enough bone for newcomers to chew on for a long, long time. Basic Christianity 2. Richard Friedman, Who Wrote The Bible.  Scholarly yet accessible, Friedman's Who Wrote The Bible reads like a detective story and leads to some startling assertions that can never be proven.  Or dis-proven, for that matter. Who Wrote bible   3.  Andy Stanley, Deep & Wide.  If you want to know what is involved in a church that uses culture without being consumed by it, this is for you.  As with all of Stanley's work, the wordsmithing alone is worth the purchase price. deep & wide 4.  Tim Tennent, This We Believe.  Tennent, the president of Asbury Seminary, has crafted an exploration of the Apostles' Creed that is thin on pages but thick with meaning.  You'll never stand and declare "I believe in God the Father Almighty, maker of heaven and earth . . ." in quite the same way again. this we believe 5.  James Bryan Smith, The Good & Beautiful God.  How can a book with that kind of title not be a summer salve to your soul?  It can, and it should. Good & Beautiful God   Speaking of works that are relatively quick reads yet contain spiritual fodder, Solve from Abingdon Press is now available.  Here's what pastor Daniel Wilson has to say about it: "Talbot's books can be picked up and read in manageable chunks without having to devote hours of time to completing one section."   9781501816482   In other words, another of those Christian books and Bible studies for summer that can easily co-exist with your vacation or summer plans. You can order Solve here or on GoodReads. GoodReads.com

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